Balance is something that I struggle with EVERY SINGLE DAY! I feel as if it is more of a trade off than a balancing act. There are times I realize that I have been placing too much attention on my career and my marriage suffers. Then, there are times that I am focused too much on myself, and my sons suffer. I have come to the realization that Life is NOT a balancing act, but more of a give and take- even feeling like a tug-o-war sometimes.
I do have it all.
I have a wonderful marriage (a true partnership).
In my eyes, a successful career- one that keeps moving in the right direction.
Two great sons that remind me of what fun and true love really is every day.
Friends that celebrate, cheer and comfort me.
“Women can have it all- a successful career, happy marriage, and motherhood. It’s not one or another. It’s about being able to fit it all in with stride. A strong woman can have all this because we were built for it.” – Strong by Kailin Gow
Being in the moment, present enough to celebrate the highlights is what I struggle with. I focus a lot of my attention on the future, my failures, and my NOW what- always have.
I have become a ‘To do List’ master. My accomplishments come down to crossing off the task on the post-it note or scrap of paper. Too many vision boards, too many bucket lists, too many things I would like to accomplish.
“To a chronic multitasker, everything is a task. Soon, the things in life that are really important to them are in the same list as everything else.” – Stephen R. Covey
This month my intention is on my yoga practice. I have successfully taken time every single day this month (so far) to roll out my mat, taken time for me to be present and mindful in the moment. At first, it was an item on my list- it has successfully become apart of my day, a routine, a habit. I have realized my time on the mat is my practice of mindfulness, a time to slow down and appreciate ALL of the Moments of the day.
“We don’t need to strive towards balance, we rather need to work on the obstacles that are preventing the natural flow of balance.”- A.A. Alebraheem, When Life Makes Sense
I want to be a loving mother that prepares my sons for their lives.
I want to be a supportive, caring wife that is forgiving, understanding, and giving.
I want to be a friend that motivates you, celebrates you, and cheers for you.
I want to be successful in my career; someone who is known for the impact that I am leaving.
All of the obstacles that prevent me from believing that I am not any of those things messes with my equilibrium. But, it is the time that I spend in reflection, the time I spend on the mat that helps me analyze all of my failures and successes equally. I am given just enough time to realize what is important at the moment, push aside everything else that doesn’t matter and focus in on my priorities. Yoga gives me a peace of mind.
“We cannot find balance because it’s a continual action with ongoing adjustments, just like the tightrope walker who constantly moves.” – Tina Hallis, Sharpen Your Positive Edge
Life is not a balancing act. Life is about being in the moment.
I am grateful that yoga has given me the willpower and fortitude to prioritize my values. I am a work in progress and yoga is very forgiving.
Just like life, if you fall out of a pose, get right back in it.
It is a practice based on self-awareness, self-love, and mindfulness.